Why Women Aren’t Attracted To Nice Guys

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Ever wonder why women just aren’t attracted to the nice guys?

As matchmakers we hear similar complaints on the regular, “I’m such a nice guy, why can I never get the woman I want?”

If this is you, you’re not alone. Many men find themselves in this position, and the reason is because women just aren’t attracted to overly nice guys. So, what do women want then? This has been a question that has puzzled men for centuries. In this article, we will explore the truth about what women want in a man.

Most women are actually attracted to a man who is assertive and even a tiny aggressive (respectfully). They want someone who is confident and knows what he wants. An overly nice guy can often come off as too passive, and doesn’t know how to take charge. It can be read as wussy, clingy and needy, which of course can be a major turnoff for a lot of women, especially a confident one.

So, if you’re looking to attract women, you need to start being more assertive. Be confident in yourself and go after what you want. It may just be the key to success when it comes to dating women. Here are a few tips to get you started:

1. Don't put her on a pedestal.

Women don’t want to be worshipped, they want to be respected.

2. Make decisions.

Women respect a man who is confident enough to make his own choices and stick to them. 

3. Don't Try To Hard

Trying too hard to please a woman often comes across as needy and desperate. Just be yourself and let things happen naturally.

4. Be confident in yourself.

Women are attracted to a man who knows his worth and is comfortable in his own skin. Take time to cultivate great confidence, dress for success and take care of yourself.

5. Have your own life

Make sure you have your own life outside of dating. Women want a man who is interesting and has his own things going on. If all you do is focus on her, she’ll lose interest fast.


Be confident, assertive and go after what you want in life – just don’t mistake this for being a jerk. There is a difference. Being a good guy means being genuine, polite and considerate. Being a jerk means being rude, inconsiderate and often manipulative. Women want a man who is somewhere in the middle – someone who is assertive and confident, but also respectful and considerate. If you can be this man, you’ll have no trouble attracting the women you want.


Want to learn more? Contact our team at Lyons Elite Matchmaking today to see how we can assist with finding you a partner.

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