You’re at a party. Or a bar. Or a mixer. Or some other social event, and a beautiful woman catches your eye.
At this point, you have two options. You can keep making eye contact with her but never actually do something. Or you can walk over and strike up a conversation. Which will it be?
For many guys – and this is true no matter how successful you’ve been in business or career or influence – talking with a gorgeous woman can be a bit challenging.
It can be a little awkward. But you’d much rather be that charming man who can talk easily and smoothly with any woman, no matter how attractive she is.
For that reason, we’re sharing with you 3 techniques you can try next time you’re in a social setting. These techniques will help you attract a woman in a social environment – and keep her interest. Take a look!
Use Your Eyes
Eye contact is a powerful erotic stimulator. It’s one of the first ways someone intuitively knows you’re attracted to them. So use it to signal your interest.
Here’s one way: when someone is talking to both you and a woman you’re interested in, don’t look at the person talking – instead, look at the woman you’re attracted to. This can immediately make her nervous (in a good way!), as she wonders why you’re looking at her instead of the person talking. And it instantly signals that you’re confident enough to look at her, instead of the speaker. It’s a powerful signal of both attraction and indomitable confidence. Try it!
The Art of Small Talk
How do you master the art of small talk? Not everyone is good at it.
Well, there are several specific techniques you can perfect in order to be an expert at conversing with people in a dynamic, captivating way.
Here’s one: when talking to that woman you’re interested in, match her mood. What does this mean?
Before talking with her, see if she’s in a high-energy, excited state or if she’s slightly more withdrawn, or bored. You can do that by listening to her voice and her facial expression. Then, when first talking with her, match that mood! She’ll be much more interested in talking with you if your mood isn’t diametrically opposite hers.
Watch While You’re Talking
Here’s another tip for those of you who want to get a bit better at small talk: when you’re talking with someone, don’t just stand there and move your mouth and let your words pour forth. No – instead, while you’re speaking, also watch their reactions closely. For example:
- Does she smile? She probably is enjoying the talk with you (this one’s pretty straightforward!).
- What about her hands? Did you know that more nerves are found between your brain and your hands than between any other body parts? That means that hands are a powerful non-verbal method of communication. So watch her hands when you’re talking with her (of course, don’t make it obvious that you’re watching her hands with microscopic attention to detail). Are her palms opened or closed? Open palms suggest more receptiveness. Are her hands behind her back, in her pockets, or under the table? Then this signals a lack of interest in the discussion.
- Other non-verbal cues to look for: if she keeps looking away (disinterest), if she’s frowning (disinterest), nodding (interest), her feet is pointed at you (interest), crossed arms (disinterest), tilting her head (can be a flirtatious signal).
Once you’ve picked up on her non-verbal cues, it’s up to you to decide what to do with that information. For example, if she’s signalling disinterest, it may be because what you’re talking about is boring her. So modulate your conversation appropriately and don’t be “that one guy” who never knows when he’s boring the people around him.
These are just a few techniques you can use to become better at talking with women at parties or other social events you might go to. Of course, there are many more techniques – which we’ll keep sharing with you!
In the meantime, if you have any questions about matchmaking for the elite, you are always welcome to contact us. We’re here to help light a fire under your romantic life – and introduce you to the love of your life.